(This is part 2 of a 2-part blog post; please read the preceding post before going through this one to get the whole context. Thanks!)
Mark 11:23-24 "I tell you the truth, if anyone says to this mountain, 'Go, throw yourself into the sea,' and does not doubt in his heart but believes that what he says will happen, it will be done for him. 24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.
If I were to summarize the first segment of this message in my last post: Why don’t we receive everything we ask for? First, we put our faith in things, rather than in God. God wants us to put our faith in Him, and not just for things.
Then, we believe He rewards those who earnestly seek Him. When our hearts seek God, and nothing else, we have strong assurance that what we are asking is His will, so He answers. But when our hearts are set on things, on what we want, rather than on Him, there will be times He will withhold the blessing, knowing that it will not be good for us. God knows whether we are asking for bread or a stone, for fish or a snake. We need to trust Him in that area.
And, when God does not grant us what we ask for we need to trust that He knows better than us. There will be times what we will ask will just be opposite His will.
So, how then should we pray? Many believe that when we pray we have to be specific, and that we should not say anything that makes it look like we’re doubting God, or else God will not answer. It makes it look like God is beholden to our words and our approach, rather than answering our prayer according to His grace, His love and His will.
So, how should we bring our prayers to God? Let’s go back to Mark
Mark 11:24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.
“Whatever you ask for IN PRAYER…”. It does not say whatever you ask for BY prayer. Many separate prayer from our relationship or walk with God, to the point that prayer just becomes a “power”, or a tool to get what we want. Yes, the Bible does say that the prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective (James 5:16), but this is not the same as saying “there is power in prayer”. Many take that out of its rightful understanding. Prayer is not about words, it’s not about what we bring to God. Prayer is about relationship.
A Christian prays not just to ask. That’s a common mistake – prayer is only about asking for what we need, pleading for it to come right away. But for 98% of our life we’re not communing with the Lord, there is no communication at all. That is not what prayer is. Prayer is fellowship with God. Prayer is about God graciously allowing us to be blessed in His presence, it’s about realizing He has allowed us to have even just a glimpse of His presence, His wisdom in God’s Word, and the opportunity to pour out our hearts to Him. Imagine the great and wonderful God allowing us to enjoy this. And by His grace we take that offer to be with Him, and spend time with Him. That’s prayer.
That’s why if you’re just praying to ask, you’re missing a major-major part of your walk with God!
So, whatever we ask for “in prayer”. In other words, our asking must be in the context of our communing with the Lord, where we open our hearts to Him, allow Him to teach us, minister to us, and also for us to pour out our emotions and needs to Him. This where the Lord sifts through the desires of our hearts, and gives us the assurance that He is there with us.
So should we be very, very sure that we are asking things that are according to God’s will? Let’s look at what I believe to be the best example and answer to this question – our Lord Himself:
Mark 14:36 "Abba, Father," he said, "everything is possible for you. Take this cup from me. Yet not what I will, but what you will."
First, Jesus expresses His belief, as I shared in the last blog: "Abba, Father," he said, "everything is possible for you. They say the term “Abba” is rightly translated “Daddy”. Do we have the same understanding? And He proclaimed “everything is possible for you”. Do we believe this when we pray to the Lord?
Then Jesus asked – “Take this cup from me”. Do we realize what Jesus was asking? He was asking God the Father to change His mind, and not allow Him to suffer what He knew He was going to go through on the cross! Jesus wanted out! What was happening? As human as He was then, Jesus was simply expressing what was in His heart.
When we are in prayer, it is only natural for us to express to the Lord what is in our hearts. And we are to do that freely, sincerely and with faith even! This is what communion does, what fellowship brings – an openness of heart. Of course, God will do the same thing.
Look what Luke shows us concerning this prayer of the Lord:
Luke 22:42 "Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done."
Why are we so afraid of that phrase – “if you are willing”? Many believe that when we say that we are expressing disbelief, doubt, and because of that God will not answer our prayer! Again, God is not beholden to our words, or even our hearts, when we pray. He answers according to His will, His pleasure, His sovereignty.
When we say “If you are willing” we are expressing our belief in Someone greater and higher than us, one that we do not fully know or comprehend, and Someone who knows so much better and who is so much wiser than us! We would be spiritually arrogant to claim that we know all of God’s will all the time. Yes, there are times it will be clear, but there will be times when we will want to be sure that what we are praying for is His will. Remember, as Jeremiah tells us, our heart is deceitful above all else!
Our Lord was opening His heart – as human as He was then He did not want to die, He did not want to go through the pain, the humiliation. For a while He wanted the plan of the Father to change. What a blessed relief to know that we have a God who knows how we feel! And we can have the boldness to open our hearts to Him in prayer.
Hebrews 4:15-16 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are--yet was without sin. 16 Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
But notice how Jesus ended His prayer: Yet not what I will, but what you will. What was in His heart now became obvious in His prayer – that it was not what He wanted that mattered, but what God mattered. And probably by this time the Father had made clear in Jesus’ heart that it was time for Him to suffer and die for all of us. And Jesus gladly accepted.
That’s what the Christian life is all about. It’s not about getting what we want, receiving what we ask for. It’s not about God giving…it’s about God.
If this is the state of your heart, then you have really prayed. For true fellowship with God, true prayer with the Lord, brings a submission to a most holy and righteous God, a submission to a wise and loving God, who is our Lord and King.
Prayer is not just about asking. It’s about enjoying God. And if God will answer a prayer to allow us to enjoy His grace and presence, then He will grant it. But if answering a prayer will simply please our flesh, our pride and our materialism, I will not question why the Lord does not give us everything we ask for. We just need to trust and believe that our God is truly Sovereign over life, and over our life.